A bad review of a restaurant or a negative review of a movie by a film critic can impact whether we eat at that restaurant or watch that film. Bad reviews online or giving a service provider less than a four- or five-star rating can adversely impact that business.

Let’s admit it, being on the receiving end of criticism is not what we would call fun. How do you manage your critics? Do you get defensive? I haven’t always handled criticism well. Often how or if I’m willing to accept or reject criticism is based on who the person is giving it. Do I know and trust them? Sometimes it’s the timing, or dependent on my mood. Even when our spouse, a close friend, our supervisor or co-worker gives us “corrective criticism” it can sting.

Life is good when people praise us for our efforts, but when there is correction needed, we aren’t always so receptive.  I don’t respond well and I’m sure you don’t appreciate it as well when the other person’s motive is to tear you down in order to make themselves look good. That will frost me every time. However, criticism and how we respond to it can go a long way toward teaching us important lessons and molding and shaping our character.

Instead of reacting to criticism, learn to respond. Reacting usually results in defensiveness, anger, and resistance. Responding to criticism though can result in positive outcomes. When criticism comes your way here are some things to consider. 1) Is there any truth to the criticism being given? If the answer is yes “own it” 2) If you honestly conclude what the other person is saying isn’t true, do nothing. Don’t try to defend yourself or win an argument. Simply remain silent. Watch your demeanor, don’t allow anger to take over. The Scripture says when Jesus was reviled, he did not revile in return.

3) If your critic is speaking the truth regardless of how they communicate it, especially if they seem harsh, don’t react and get defensive. Instead, listen carefully to what is being said and seek to turn the criticism into a character-building opportunity. Respond to the criticism and take corrective actions 4) If what is being said to you is sort of neutral not necessarily true or false ask yourself, is there something here for me to learn or be aware of? And finally, be careful not to constantly question your critic’s motive. Instead allow God to use their criticism as a means and motivation to build your character. Make it your goal to turn your critics into your greatest coaches.

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